It is so easy to get wrapped up in a relationship with someone who is not good for you. It can be hard to see past all of the amazing qualities that a person has and realize they are not right for you.
Is very common for people in a wrong relationship to keep trying to fix things with their partners, in most cases you may keep blaming yourself for their wrongdoing.
Unfortunately, some people are just not right for you, the more you try to make it work the more it hurts you in the end.
Here are 10 signs that will help you realize when you are dating the wrong person.
1. They Don’t Take Responsibility
They are always trying to shift the blame onto someone else instead of taking responsibility for their own actions.
When they say things like, “It’s not my fault I was late.” or “I wasn’t doing anything wrong! He started yelling at me!” those are common signs of people who don’t take responsibility in a relationship.
They might not even realize they are doing it, but if someone is constantly looking for ways to shift the blame and never take responsibility for their actions then that relationship is more likely to hurt you in the long run.
2. They Want All of Your Time
If your partner wants all of your time and doesn’t want anything else in your life to take up any of it, that is a sign you dating the wrong person.
They might be jealous of your relationship with your friends, family, and sometimes even pets.
If a relationship is going to work then both partners need time apart from each other where they can go out and do their own thing without the other person being needy or demanding that you have all of your attention on them.
A relationship is a two-way street that both partners need to be willing to travel down together, not one person having all of their needs met while the other sits in the passenger seat with nothing but resentment towards them for holding them back.
3. They Want You To Change
One of the biggest relationship signs that you are dating someone who is not good for you, is if they want to change who you are as a person.
The right person will admire and love everything about you. They will find you to be an interesting and unique person who brings a lot of joy into their life.
They won’t have any desire to change the way that you behave or even think about things, they will just want to love all of your imperfections because that is what love is, and they know that you are going to have different opinions at times and that is okay.
A relationship is a partnership and sometimes you will have to adjust for each other, but they shouldn’t be asking you to give up who you are as a person.
4. They Don’t Have Their Own Life
If you don’t know anything about your partner’s life outside of you, the relationship is probably not going to end up in a good place.
You should each have an identity that exists beyond one another because it helps create independence from each other when needed.
If they don’t have any hobbies or interests then this could mean they are too dependent on you which can be a cause of relationship problems.
5. They Don’t Communicate With You
If they don’t talk to you about the important things in their life and keep everything bottled up inside your relationship is not in a healthy state.
You need someone who is open and honest with you, that is what creates a strong bond in a relationship.
And if they always avoid talking about themselves it might be a sign they are hiding something important which could change how you feel about them.
6. They Keep You a Secret
If they don’t want to introduce you to their friends or family without a good reason then chances are they are not proud to be with you, or they think you are not worthy enough.
You should both be comfortable introducing each other to people around you and not feel the need to hide your relationship to the world or be embarrassed to admit you are in a relationship.
You need to be with someone who is proud to be with you and wants to show you off to everyone around them.
7. They Never Apologize
If they always have excuses for their behavior and never say sorry then it might be a relationship that is not worth staying in for the sake of your mental health.
You need someone who will take responsibility for what happens between the both of you. If you have to always take the blame even when you know is their fault, chances are you are with the wrong person.
The right person will value the relationship more than their ego, and they will not try to make you feel bad about yourself.
8. They are Never Satisfied
If your relationship with someone is always a struggle because they never seem to be satisfied then it might not be the best relationship for you.
It’s important that both of you feel loved and appreciated in a relationship and if you find yourself constantly trying to figure out what they want or how to please them but you never seem to succeed then it might be a sign you are committed to an unhealthy relationship.
9. They Compare You With Other People
If they constantly compare you to other people and put them on a pedestal, is a sign you are in with the wrong person.
Every human is unique, the right person will always see the qualities in you that no one else sees.
If you feel like they are constantly comparing you to other people, then it might be time for a relationship check-up.
It’s important that your relationship is built on respect and admiration rather than feelings of inadequacy or insecurity.
10. They are Inconsiderate of Your Feelings
If you find yourself having to ask for everything you want because if not you won’t get anything at all, is a sign you are in a relationship with the wrong person.
At the beginning of a relationship, both people should be doing things for each other that they wouldn’t ordinarily do for other people.
The relationship is not about “I” and “you,” it’s about us as a couple.
If you’re feeling like you have to ask over and over again until your partner finally gives in or just does it for you, then this relationship is not a good one.
Conclusion
It can be difficult to figure out if you are dating someone who is not good for you. But when they consistently show these signs, it may be time to take a step back and assess what’s happening in your relationship.
You deserve to be treated with respect and consideration. If you are dating someone who does not treat you this way, it may be time for a change in your life.
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